There are days when I feel like I have a secret identity. Unlike Superman or Batman or any of the other super heroes, I am just a wife and mom. I'm not overly clever.
I don’t have x ray vision (then I can check on my son to see if he’s really sleeping at bedtime) or magic cleaning ability (that would be sweet). I just have the amazing ability to multitask, which if done too much can lead to major burnout.
I digress.
I do feel like I have a secret identity. There are ways that people see me-certain facets of my personality exposed-that make folks think that I am a certain way. When I let them in on my secret, it shocks a lot of people and in some cases, I’ve lost “friends” over some pretty superficial stuff.
It isn’t a secret that my family comes first, no matter what. For the last few years, I’ve been “busy” making a living, and forgetting to make a life. My son went from 1st to 4th grade in a blink of an eye. If I could just stop the world for a few minutes to hug him as a little boy more, I would. I have missed out on a lot of little minutes, and those are just as important (if not more) than the major milestones. I need that family time, to me its sacred. I struggle listening to other women bashing their families, especially their husbands. I equally dislike talking smack about your children. To me, you should be their biggest cheerleaders.
I shouldn’t apologize, but I am as in love with my husband today as I was when we first met 20 years ago. He rocks my world. He can make me laugh like no one else. After all these years, we can just look at the other and know what they are thinking. Apparently, women aren’t supposed to love their husbands-just complain about them. Its pretty easy to get into the habit at looking at all the wrong stuff and not focusing on what’s right. I’m one of the lucky ones-I married a pretty good guy. Not many men would put up with some of the curve balls life has thrown at us without a complaint.
Part of my secret identity is a desire for simplicity. I like life in the slow lane. I like sitting out on the deck, watching the sunset. I prefer my home cooking to a restaurant. I watch Fox News and am a conservative chick. I believe in God, guns and America. I am a passionate Christian. I don’t watch Jon Stewart (even though he graduated from the same high school as the princess) or MSNBC. I do listen to NPR, but I also listen to Glenn Beck. I follow NASCAR and listen to country music. I can line dance and do a pretty mean two step. While I do eat vegan, I am not a very good one. I like steak and chicken too much. My husband drives a pick up truck. He hunts and we both like to fish. I like both silky dresses and jeans. I am the middle ground .
I guess this means my secret identity is part redneck, but that’s ok.
I still struggle with my weight, and working out. I run 5k’s but don’t like to train. I try to eat healthy, but I am currently obsessed with candied fruit slices (don’t ask). I love yoga, but am limited in asana practice due to my still recovering broken leg. I have lots of craft projects that I start but never seem to finish.
2 comments:
It's good to know oneself and I agree we should be our families biggest cheerleader. My family always comes first too.
It's good to know that families come first. I think there is a trend to make that a reality in more families today. I know my children are all good at putting there spouses and families where they belong...first. Unfortunately stable families aren't news so it is not what we hear about.
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