Saturday, November 22, 2014

Sugar for my tea

I have a deep, deep love for kombucha. I am not a big fan of paying $4/bottle for it, however. That was one of my primary reasons to start making it myself. I posted the basics here, but the real magic comes when you add flavors and do a second ferment. 

I originally wanted to do a lemon ginger, but was out of lemon. I substituted lime and it turned into something magical.

To do a second ferment, you need to take some previously brewed kombucha and pour it into a bottle. I'm kinda like a green freak, so I recycled a bottle of kombucha past and poured into it my brew. I added a half of a lime that was sliced and a knob of ginger.

Then I waited.

The second ferment only take a few days, and this was perfect. There was a natural carbonation, and the flavors combined just perfectly.

Heaven. In a bottle.

Monday, November 17, 2014

No More Words

Words have incredible power. My son had limited verbal ability the first few years of his life. When he began speaking shortly after he had ear tubes placed, it was a glorious miracle. He understood how words can change the world. As he has gotten older, and closer to the teenage years, he is learning how sarcasm can have power over whether or not he will be grounded. Words can either hurt or heal.

When we speak, we are sharing our power. If we use positive words, we are sharing positive vibes. Negative words equal negative power. When you constantly say that you don’t have x, doesn’t it seem like that’s all that shows up? It’s the same thing with money. When you go around saying I don’t have enough money, I’m so poor, I’m so broke, blah blah blah you are giving your financial world view negative power. If you go around saying that you’re fat, have no willpower and can’t lose weight-guess what? What you think is what you get.  The Big Man always tells me that he is incredibly practical and a realist (which is most certainly is, to a fault), and doesn’t believe me when I remind him to think positive. I go so far as putting books like the Secret and the Power of Positive Thinking on his nightstand.

I wasn’t born a little ray of sunshine. My grandmother especially, always looked for the other shoe to drop. I remember whenever someone shared good news or a compliment, she would go “tut tut, don’t say that”-basically negating the compliment. That is basically telling God that you don’t want those blessings.  No one in my family of origin is a positive person. To me, it’s exhausting to constantly be looking at the dark side of life. It’s so much easier when you see the good in everyone and everything.

Saturday, November 15, 2014


I've been transitioning to all natural cleaners for the last several years. I notice a difference in my sons behavior with additional chemical loads, and the dizzy dog is a licker. To keep them both safe, I've gone crunchy.

Here's my quick tips & mixes to keep your house clean (bonus-it's so much cheaper this way too!)

Multi purpose cleaner: vinegar, water, a little EO
Toilet cleaner: baking soda, citric acid, borax, vinegar mixed together w/some EO. I scoop some out before bed, let it fizz over night & you wake up with a clean toilet
Bathroom cleaner: vinegar, tea tree oil, Castile soap, EO for scent.
Shower cleaner: vinegar, borax, Castile soap, tea tree oil 
Rubbing alcohol to polish stainless steel
Borax, vinegar & water to clean glass top stove
Water, ginger rosemary & lemongrass eo's in steam mop
Sink cleaner: baking soda, tea tree oil, eo's & a little hydrogen peroxide. I mix the baking soda w/oils, let dry out. Sprinkle in sink, add peroxide let foam & wash. I also use it on my shower floor when it's gross
Carpet fresh: baking soda, mixed with lavender, juniper berries & rose petals. Sprinkle, wait 15 minutes then vacuum 
Furniture polish: olive/almond oil mixed with mandarin & lemon EO's
Fabric softener vinegar
Dryer sheets: washcloth soaked in vinegar/EO solution

Monday, November 10, 2014

So True

The second yama of yoga is truthfulness. In this era of Catfish, bogus social media profiles and a dishonest political system, its getting harder and harder to be honest. One of the most interesting movies I’ve seen in a long time was Ricky Gervais’ the Invention of Lying. It is a very interesting premise-a world where no one lies. However, it is a lot more stressful than people imagined. There are no filters, and people are often cruel and blunt. Religion does not exist, nor is there hope.  Leave it to Ricky Gervais to invent lying, and then the world is a better place.

But is it?

My son lacks the ability to lie. It is one of the double edged swords of beauty/curse that is part of life with autism. Life for him is like living in the alternative world of the Invention of Lying. He can lack tact at times, and tells it like it is. Sometimes, the truth can be incredibly painful and other times, quite refreshing.

Many years ago, there was an episode of Oprah that was about pathological liars. These are folks that seemingly unable to tell the truth. It’s the opposite of living with autism or the wacky world Ricky Gervais dreamt up. If you have ever dealt with one, its frustrating at its very least and destructive at its worst. There is a difference between folks who live in a fantasy world. Patholigical liars lie because at their very roots, they are incredibly insecure.

It must be exhausting, living in a web of lies. You have to keep on lying to cover your tracks. You need to remember the lies that you told and to whom in order to keep the lies going and flowing. The level of betrayal to those who care the most is unbelievable. After a while, its not worth it keeping them in your life, because you never know what’s real and what’s not.

By practicing truthfulness, you aren’t just being honest to others, you are honest to yourself too. How many lies have you told yourself? I know I lied to myself a lot. Just 5 more minutes as I hit the snooze button is one of the most regular. I know in my heart of hearts that 5 minutes turns into a lot more than that. You have to start being brutally honest to yourself first, before you can be honest with others.

Sunday, November 09, 2014

Someone Like You

Brahmacharya being constantly aware of the universe, immersed in divinity, divine conduct, continence, celibate when single, faithfulness when married.

Have you ever thought about how life would be if you wound up with your first love (or some other lost love)? Or daydreamed about some movie star/musician/athlete? Are you in a relationship? Then you are not being faithful.

This has been the source of debate in my home lately. To be honest, I don’t want to reconnect with any past relationships. They are in the past for a reason. When those relationships ended, I wished them well and went on with my life. I’m not being mean or anything, it’s just how I feel. They are in the past, and I can’t go back and recreate that ever again. For whatever reason, it didn’t work out, and its life. We are not all meant to be together forever. I am grateful for those relationships, because they contributed to who I am today. In other words, I am no longer the same person I was when I dated that person. I will never be again. You know what-I have no desire to be that person either.

If it wasn’t for that relationship ending in the past, I wouldn’t have gotten married. I wouldn’t have my beautiful home. My dog wouldn’t be mine, nor would my cat. Most importantly, I wouldn’t be a mom to my son. Things happen for a reason, and while there was some initial sadness when relationships ended, in the end, I am grateful. I love the life I am living and wouldn’t trade it for the world. Facebook and social media makes it really easy to go back to the past, for those glory days. It’s a slippery slope. I think those who chose to reconnect with past relationships when they are married are treading into dangerous waters. What good can it bring to your current relationship? How will it enhance your current situation? Will it make your relationship stronger or will it undermine it?

I don’t care how secure you are in your relationship, when your significant other reconnects with a former flame, there are a lot of anxieties and issues that bubble up. It might start out as innocent, but if one party feels threatened or if it feels disrespectful, it needs to stop. It’s a form of unfaithfulness. It will never increase intimacy-in fact it does the opposite. It is even more challenging if this ex has cast a long dark shadow over your relationship. {note: this is true in cases where mutual children are not involved. In those situations, the more friendly the parents are, the easier it is to co-parent} Once that door has been opened, it can never be completely shut and there will be doubts continually cast. Trust is eroded.

You might be thinking-all this from friending someone on Facebook?

Yes. If you had an intimate relationship with someone, it ended and you’ve married another, you have no business being friends with your ex. You have no need to go back to that, unless you are not happy in your current situation-then you need to end your current relationship. Its cheating, albeit on an emotional level. If you can’t be present fully, you shouldn’t be in that relationship. Period.

Friday, November 07, 2014


My grandmother used to use a pendulum when I was a kid, but I never really thought about it until I was much older. She used to use it like a parlor game, rather than for divination or anything else. It wasn’t until fairly recently that I really began to understand it more. I belonged to a spiritualist group headed by the late Georgi Streetman, and one of the skills she taught us to use was a pendulum. At first I was very skittish. I had some bad experiences with a Ouija board back in the day, and I didn’t want to open the door to lower vibration entities. The most important thing you need to do is to surround yourself with protective, white light. Technically, you are working with your higher self or spirits, but it’s your subconscious mind that is moving the pendulum around.


You can use anything as a pendulum. I have one that I purchased, but my grandmother used a string and some sort of lug nut. Others use their wedding bands on string. I’ve even used my keys in a pinch. It needs a length of string or chain and a weight at one end. When you first start using a pendulum, you need to figure out what directions are being used so you can get answers. You only need to do this once with your pendulum. You need to determine the yes, no, kind of, don’t know, can’t say and ask later directions. The next step is to ask several simple questions you already know the answer to like my name is (fill in) I have (eye color) etc to make sure the directions are working right. You can also use a circle graph to help keep track of answers.

The most important things to remember when you are working with a pendulum are wording and intent. Make sure you ask your questions clearly and concisely. Don’t mess with the pendulum if you already know the answer and just want to “test” it. Don’t ask the same question multiple times during a session, because you are showing doubt. Remember you are tapping into your subconscious with this, so if you have a preferred answer (like with the sex of a baby), the pendulum may lean in that direction, regardless of what the truth is.

The most important thing is never use the pendulum for gambling. That is just not cool, and you are not going to be happy with the outcome. It’s just a huge don’t. Also, don’t use it for bad or ill purposes. That’s not cool either. Once you have been working with your pendulum, don’t let others use it because its tuned to you.

Some things you can use a pendulum for:

In a Room - hold the pendulum and ask where the object is located. The pendulum will swing in the direction of the lost object.

In a House - Ask the pendulum, room by room, i.e., is it in the kitchen? yes/no, bathroom and so on until you narrow it down. Then go into the room and section it off.

Ask - "Am I facing the right direction to find... If the pendulum swings foreword or backward, you are moving in the right direction. In circles, move with the circle slowly, until it swings foreword and backward.

Ask about each area of your body or ask the aura of someone you want to know about. Keep narrowing down the questions with each answer

A pendulum can tell you all sorts of things about other people. A photo or personal item of the person in question is a big help, but is not necessary. Just hold the pendulum over the item and ask questions.

Just open the phone book and ask where is the most inexpensive and the best quality place for what you want. Name places and the pendulum will answer yes/no. A pendulum can also be helpful in diagnosing car trouble before pulling everything apart or taking it to a shop.

Thursday, November 06, 2014

Fresh & fruity

My son loves slurpees. He loves adding all the different flavors together for a rainbow concoction.

True confession? So do I. An occasional treat, this sugary mix is ok, but on a regular basis? Heck, no!

I've been searching for a healthier alternative...and I think I've found it.

You need:
Carbonated water (I use our soda stream. Club soda works too)
Crushed ice. (I have an ice shaver)
Fruit juice
Fresh fruit

Mix the juice, fruit and ice in a blender. Pour into a tall glass with soda water.