Women of God can never be like women of the world. The world has enough women who are tough; we need women who are tender. There are enough women who are coarse; we need women who are kind. There are enough women who are rude; we need women who are refined. We have enough women of fame and fortune; we need more women of faith. We have enough greed; we need more goodness. We have enough vanity; we need more virtue. We have enough popularity; we need more purity.
Margaret D. Nadauld
Even though I have been married for a LONG time, I still watch all the wedding programs.
I love looking at wedding Pinterest boards (hey you never know. We may renew our vows) I also love making wedding gifts. One of my favorites that I give as a shower present is homemade potpourri.
Needed:
Red rose petals
Cardamon pods
Vanilla beans
Pink tulle
Mix the flowers and spices together. Tie into a pink tulle pouch
No Italian wedding is complete without a busta bag. In New Jersey, the bridal couple goes from table to table, greeting guests and collecting the cards and money being gifted. I am not fond of the tradition, but…who am I to stop it? And when in Rome…
Supplies needed:
Eyelash yarn (I usually make it either in the bridesmaid’s colors or white) 6 skeins
Size g crochet hook
Ribbon roses
Chain 50, 2 tc, ½ double crochet back 50-2 tc. Repeat for 80 rows.
Fold in half. Single crochet sides to enclose purse. I usually do two rows across the sides and bottom.
For strap: Chain 150, 2 tc, ½ double crochet back 150, 2 tc, continue for about 10 rows. Attach to the inside of purse.
I do love watching the bridal shows-everything from my Big Redneck Wedding to Say Yes to the Dress to Bridezillas. I did things very differently when it was my special day. Little girls start planning their weddings when they are like, 5. My template was Princess Diana. For years, she was my favorite style icon, and there were some things similar with my wedding and hers stylistically. At one point I wanted to get married in Memory Grove, and then have my wedding reception at La Caille. Then, when I was a little older, I wanted to get married on the beach, at sunset. Finally, I got my dream ceremony at my church, to my best friend. That is not to say that there weren’t any issues getting to that point.
First and foremost, my bridal party did a great job keeping me sane and planning a terrific shower for me. Secondly, I was highly organized. I had my planner book, and it was my best friend during the planning process. I knew what I wanted, and sometimes not everyone shared my vision or wanted to make my vision a reality, and for the most part it was a dream come true. Thirdly, I had some crafting skills, so I was able to make things that I otherwise would not have had as part of my wedding. For example, I made the reception centerpieces, which otherwise would have been out of our budgetary reach. I also made our wedding favors, instead of buying them.
There were a lot of tears along the way, and there were things that were said that came out all wrong. I had a few hiccups in friendships because of weddings-theirs and mine-that time has resolved.
So many folks put the emphasis on planning their wedding and not their marriage. Both my husband & I came into this commitment knowing that we were in for the long haul. There were some people who didn’t think (or on some levels, secretly hoped) that we wouldn’t last.
For our wedding readings, I chose a non-traditional Old Testament lesson from the Book of Ruth. It however, was a personal statement on our relationship and marriage-we were leaving our families of origin and joining together as one new family, and whither thou goest, I will follow.
Love is in the air! I admit I love weddings. There is nothing more spectacular and genuine than seeing two people deeply in love on their wedding day. That is unabashed affection. I can picture exactly how my husband stared at me on our special day, and I still get goosebumps from it!
Planning a wedding is extremely stressful. I know, I have been there, done that. And unlike many of my peers, I did my wedding without the help of a planner. In fact, I did mine in the dark ages before blogs and social media even! Its amazing that I was able to pull it off working full time in a demanding job managing an architectural firm as well as working part time as a specialist for a major book store chain PLUS volunteer work and school. Yes, I was crazy but a little bit younger, and I did have some phenomenal folks that helped me pull it off.
Watch "Princess Diana Funeral - Elton John - Candle In The Wind (Goodbye England's Rose)" on YouTube
I have a confession to make: I was obsessed with Princess Diana. From when she first came onto the scene until her untimely death and beyond, I idolized her.
She pulled back the curtains on the princess myth, and exposed it warts & all.
Tomorrow, her son is getting married in the same church where she was buried from. Granted that church is WestminsterAbbey and is the public persona of the Anglican church, but when you are the heir to the throne, its as close to a family church as you are going to get.
I will admit that I will peek at the royal wedding. I want to know how other than the ring, Diana will be incorporated into the ceremony. Or maybe that won't be for public consumption.
Its a twinge of sadness when you get married after one of your parents have died. I know it was for me at least. But the consolation was that I was starting a new life.
Anyone who has been married in the Anglican communion as I was used the same order of service as the young royals will. It's just another way of saying we who are many share one bread, one cup and are all the same.