Wednesday, August 24, 2011


At the beginning of August, our little family of 3 became a family of four with the addition of our now daughter. I'm not going to lie, there's been a lot to adapt (and adopt) to. For one thing, I am now the mother of a teenage girl, which in itself has challenges. To say that she has baggage would be an understatement. Everyone does, its all in the type you carry.
I have to be careful and not project onto her things that are super important to me. Yes, I would love for her to be a cheerleader and be super popular and all those wonderful high school experiences. I think back to my experiences then, and the impact it has had on my life as an adult. For  one thing, I am still friends with a select group from high school, all these years later. I have chosen who I want in my life still and despite not having seen each other in some cases for more than 20 years, there is a level of comfort that we have.
I was an extra curricular queen. I did it all from sports to clubs to volunteer work to student council. I had the ability to try on different hats and personas to see what fit.
Teenage queen isn't sure what she wants to do yet. I glided easily through life as the golden child. Due to circumstances beyond her control, its been more of climbing the side of a mountain. She isn't sure she wants to do anything at all in school. There are issues about where she truly is academically, socially, whatever. I, as mom, want her to do it all like I did. I want her to shine brightly, because I know she can.
Today is the first day of school, and its up to her to make or break her high school experience. I have emphasized to her how important school is-that if she doesn't take it seriously she won't get into a good college, etc. (no pressure there!) But, just for today, I want her to get through the first day of high school.


Laurie Kolp said...

Bless you! I'm sure with lots of love and gentle probing she'll find her true self (it might take quite a bit of onion peeling though). Good luck.

Sheilagh Lee said...

thank goodness she has you with infinite patience. It's hard to be a teenager and joining a family is hard. but with your love and guidance she'll figure it all out.

Rinkly Rimes said...

We worried about our rather reticent grandson last year when he started High School (Australia) but he has sailed through the experience and matured beautifully. A clever use of the words.