Tuesday, November 30, 2010
7 days from now, I will be preparing for a new.chapter in my life. Surgery. No more humpy. I will be able to.do so much more with my life. I will be able to twist & bend for the first time in a decade. I will be able.to lay on my stomach again. It.won't be a struggle to give my son a bath. I can tidy up without struggling. I can live a normal life.
I just need to lay on a table with my guts spewed out for.several hours next Tuesday morning. I should be done & in my room by lunchtime. Then it will be a sleepy afternoon.
In the meantime crazy cat is getting fixed today.
I've got so much stuff going on this week, when all I want to do is be with my family. I just want to spend time with my boys. I've realized that being so busy all the time really sucks. Six or so months ago I promised my son that I would be home more...and I've tried really hard. But I'm still super busy & I'm not enjoying it. Sorry but its the truth.
Im really tired of running, running, running.
Actually, what frustrates me the most is the fact that I am beholden to others. It's like my surgery is inconveniencing THEM.
But its how I feel. It's the holidays, and I know its crazy for.everyone. that being said, I want to enjoy the holidays with my.family & not be crazy with other people's issues & events.
Stop the madness.
I want to hunker down with the 2 people & 2 pets that matter most in my life.
I don't need extra stress in my life anymore. I'm tired of it all. It's of my own making, which is even more frustrating. I have a hard time saying no. I don't know how to put my hand down. I.feel guilty if I say no.
I think.that this long post surgical recovery will have a huge benefit for me. I will have to.say no.
No I can't bake cookies.
No i can't run the games at your holiday party.
No I can't throw a classroom party together in 3 days.
No I can't do x, y or z.
It's really sucking the life out of me.
And despite me saying that I.don't want to.do.this.anymore, and have been , saying this for years. But I still do. I get caught in the moment...I guess I want to feel needed.
My family needs me.
So I reiterate what I said in May. Family first. Then work. Then church and Pto. Then anything else. If it isn't going to support my goals of happiness & peace; if it is going to cause undue stress or harm; or if it is going to require too much additional time for me to be involved...its a no.
For.so many years I've linked my self worth to what I can do & how much of it I do...like an eager puppy trying to please his master. But its not happiness.