Bring Me To Life

November is national adoption month, however that is EVERY month in my house. I know that we aren't the only family to deal with infertility or adopt a child(ren), but ours is a truly cool story.
Before we considered adoption, we did infertility treatments. We started with the old temperature monitoring, and then eventually moved up the ladder to clomid. Unfortunately, after being on that for several cycles, I hemorrhaged and that was that. The doctor was quite kind when she broke the news that I would never be a biological mom.
I was devastated.
During the same time, we had started the process to become foster parents. In fact, the day we found out we couldn't have children was when we had the panel discussion.
A few weeks later, DSS matched us with our son. The rest of that is history.
Over the years, we have fostered other children, but we reached our emotional tipping point, and decided we wanted to add to our family permanently. Fast forward to today, and we are in the process of adopting teen queen.
When we began our adoption journey, the Big Man & I made the conscious choice of adopting an older child. I don't judge those who need to raise a child from birth, but I just wanted to raise a child. Adopting out of foster care was the perfect solution for us.
Little Man has spent most of his life with us, and I don't really remember life without him. Teen queen is just starting to blend into our family and is starting to realize she is a chosen child.
I remember a PTO mom mentioned to me that I wasn't a real mom because I didn't give birth. To me, it doesnt matter who gave my child life. I am grateful that they chose to do so. Our children were a deliberate conscious choice, the ultimate defination of pro choice.